If I was not worried about this situation, but felt calm and positive about it – would that change anything for me?
This last week I have been trying a little bit extra to focus on my everyday fear. I always say that all emotions come from either fear or love. As if irritation, worry, anger, anxiety or frustration have their roots in a place of fear, while harmony, happiness, contentment and hope have their roots in a place of love. Like a “fear mode” and a “love mode”.
It’s natural for us to look for dangers all the time, since that’s more crucial for our survival than signs of kindness or love. We have done that for so many years that it has become the first hand choice for our subconscious – to choose an emotion coming from fear rather than considering one from love.
I therefore have to make a conscious effort to first realize that what I’m feeling is coming from fear.
Then I have to ask myself what it would feel like if I picked a feeling coming from love, calmness for example.
“That would be much nicer and I would be much more relaxed”.
So I continue and ask myself if something in reality would change if I choose to focus more on being calm than worried.
“Maybe I would make decision that are better for everyone involved. I would probably be more creative. And perhaps more fun to be around!”
Do I have anything to earn from continuing being worried?
“No, I just don’t want to be naïve, but I can’t actually see that things could change for the worse if I changed the roots of this emotion from fear to love.”
Piece of cake? Not exactly. But interesting and a good way of growing and developing.
If you want to try you don’t have to start with the big fears in your life. Start with a little useless negativity that you have in your mind or body right now.
Are you irritated, frustrated, bitter or low about something or someone particular today?
What if you were not?
What positive emotion could you choose instead?
Would that be nicer? Want to give it a try?
Write a little note or place something symbolic on your desk (I have my symbolic bracelet that reminds me of today’s challenge!) or set the alarm and think about the situation and your feelings from the “love place” as many times as possible today.