Do you consider yourself successful?
Most people don’t. On the contrary! We think about famous people who are very successful and rich and realize that we will probably never be that in this lifetime. At least not if we continue with our lives in the same was as today. But I’ve been thinking a lot about this and today I think of myself as pretty successful actually! This is how I did:
Almost all of us think of someone being successful if she or he has earned a lot of money and have bought nice houses, cars and other expensive things. But I don’t think there is a certain income level that makes someone successful. You can probably earn what I would consider an awful lot of money and you might compare yourself to someone who is earning more and still don’t think of yourself as successful.
On the other hand though, we can easily say “That party was truly a success!” Why was it a success? Probably because it turned out just the way we had wished for – or maybe even better! And the success didn’t have to do with any money. A meeting, a talk or a demonstration could be a success.
But how can a party be a success when there are no money involved? Because you can get other things than money as proof of your success! You can get a lot of hugs, laughs, people dancing and singing and being happy at your party, or messages afterward from people telling you what a success it was. You have to admit that those things are sometimes even better than money!
So events can be successful just because they turned out in a good way. Then we should be able to use the same definition for our own deeds, shouldn’t we? Everything that you do could then be a success, as long as it turns out as you wanted it to turn out – or better. That means that you actually have to think about what you do and what kind of outcome you want. How do you want your meeting with your friend at the café this afternoon to turn out? Do you want it to be funny, relaxing, private, or deep? Then afterwards you can ask yourself if it turned out that way. If it did – it was a success! Here you might have to think of your own feelings as the thing you get instead of money. Do you get a feeling of happiness, warmth, or maybe contentment? That’s good, isn’t it?
Now you can go even one step further and think about all the things you do in your life. Think about the small, everyday things, like going to work, cooking dinner, cleaning the house – did you do it in a successful way? Then be happy and allow yourself to feel successful about that! But also the more major things in your life, like your relationship with your partner or your mother, choice of job, or how you are treating yourself. First: How do you want it to be? Then: Are you being successful in doing it that way? If not: What can you change to make it more successful?
I promise, that this feeling of actually being successful at some things in your life every day will make you feel more content and happy!
(So I managed to write a blog post about success. I won’t get any money! Maybe a few positive comments?! But I am happy that I wrote more or less what I had set out to write. This might be a successful day!)